Well, meow to you 2 ; ) responses and more…

Oh I am so glad my topic the past few days has had an impact on several of you, I always dig the ‘you’ve got mail’ and when I check it I don’t recognize a name, meaning that it’s an anonymous one of you : )

A couple of you stated that you, uh, made small strides in your ‘communication’ with your beloved, does that mean you read my blog together? Meow…but, seriously, that’s cool bc you know I’d do anything to help you all, it’s true, just do not ask me to join you, hahaha, I am a one on one type, plain and simple, so yeah…that means no to you T&R, but thanks for the offer. And hey, Just cause I write so openly it doesn’t mean I have an ‘up for grabs’ sign up, no offense meant or taken there, OK? So, we’re good now, right?

Private ‘Muslim man’ - I think that it’s interesting that growing up in a sexist society you somehow ended up reading here and respectfully thanking me (for what I am not sure). I would have to think that you are an anomaly and have been blessed with a bit of sensitivity, lucky you and your soon to be wife. Allah and I wish you a happy love/sex life : ) who needs 72 virgins when you have an adoring wife, right?

Oh so here’s the ‘more’ part of this entry…( and it’s in random stream of consciousness order, sorry)

A friend sent an article about a sex therapist who works with couples who have never consummated their marriage. Yes, never sealed the deal. Wow. How sad is that? I always wondered how that arranged marriage thing worked. How would that be - to have a wedding, a huge party with all the bells and whistles and then…later…you’re alone…with someone you’ve barely met, or maybe had a chaperoned conversation or two with. Oof. Are you’re supposed to feel instant comfort with a total stranger, and especially in the sexual arena? Methinks not. How could you? And with some serious societal morality thrown in there, holy moly, it leaves me shaking my head in utter disbelief, they probably were also.

Thus, the trip to the sex counselor years later. It made me feel a certain compassion towards the people involved, male and female, whatever culture…bc that’s got to be personal torture.

On the US flip side, you’ve got middle schooler’s ducking into school closets to perform oral sex and high schoolers who are ‘hooking up’ with everyone. It’s the new relationship thing, hahaha, don’t have one just have the sex and call it a day, go meet your friends, no fuss no muss no hassle and it’s ‘all good’ or is it? Are they sexually jaded and social/relationship nerds by twenty five? Does a ‘love’ feeling not even enter the picture at such a tender age?

I thought it was cool (and somewhat grown up) to ‘love’ a high school boyfriend. I kept mine aware of my personal space needs, actually I think I just spent two days hanging all over him and then went MIA for a day or two (much to his chagrin) but he never bugged me about it much, I always came back for more and made sure he knew it had nothing to do with an imaginary misunderstanding. He liked that I knew who I was (or so he thought, hahaha) or at least I knew what I needed (a break from other people), some solitude.

I’m curious now though, why is it all so extreme? Random vs totally (and perhaps overly) committed sex, isn’t there some middle ground in there somewhere, for teens, for other cultures, for US culture?

That’s it, go snug your baby and tune in again manana : ) Ciao!