Self esteem knows no color (anymore)

Hmm, I guess a few of you out there could relate to the Tues/Weds self esteem blog entry I wrote, I just wanted to address the content of a few commenter’s e-mail’s bc I run into this s**t (and mostly from women) all the time. I could get in a snit about how one of you worded it but why, that wouldn’t be very Zen or very Lilly, so you can go get yourself worked up about how ‘everyone is not like me’ bc I’m not going to join you or deny that you are correct. You are.

- oh, and don’t I know that, honey. I have family members who think my self esteem is ‘too high’ bc I don’t hesitate to speak my truth and my mind as needed to what’s left of the men in the family (the men aren’t insulted, the women are maybe bc they didn’t do it first? or they just think I’m too bold or I have different views and therefore a non-conformist) or is it bc I take care of me very well (yes, I go get facials quarterly and head to the gym regularly while I’m supposed to be, uh, cooking over a hot stove or something more traditional and selfless?), etc…

I make no apologies anymore, bc I can only say, if I don’t love me and take care of me, who else will?? Enough said on this topic? E me if you’d like further details…or you can just think I’m a selfish biagge and call it a day : ) your call.

Now, about color, yes people my soul sistahs here and on the east coast called to talk about the Obama win, mmmm, there’s a certain hip swiveling dance that goes along with that nicely ; ) and they told me that everyone they know has a new attitude about what they personally can do, the bar on black self esteem has been raised, it’s a ‘we can do it’ attitude out there. I’m not sure why it hadn’t occurred to me as a possible side effect but it didn’t.

I ended both convos with the same line, ‘…now that you’ve got that win, and I’ve got mine, an articulate, intelligent man with heart and soul in office, can we move on from the race thing eventually?’ Their answer: yes, eventually it will happen. Good, I can’t wait, we waste far too much time concerning ourselves with that nonsense…

You know though, that Obama, he’s got it all, he’s got all of the above and an enviable love scene with his wife (and those cutie girls). He appears to be paying proper attention to his love in addition to that loaded working-for-a-living political plate. That dude sure knows how to live, and he’ll make a fine role model for men, they can observe firsthand how to handle it all. Women don’t expect perfection but we do expect attention : )and for once you’ll see how a man ‘balances work and home life’ something your everyday woman knows a lot about and her husband probably does not, that’s not a knock, that’s just an everyday American fact.

I’m so glad we’ll have a shining example of that old style ‘American Dream’ for the next 4-8 years…he won’t be fixing everything overnight but he sure can’t F it up any worst than our last Pres…

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